Pain - 4 letters of life

there is no pain, you are receding... 
a distant ship smoke on the horizon... - comfortably numb - Pink Floyd. love this song


Ah! The magical four letters that define a person; you would argue it can be love too… but then for some even that leads to pain. We all experience it, sometimes physically, sometimes mentally and imagine the amount of difference it brings to your persona. Remember the first time you were given an injection, all your childhood you are afraid of it and for every mischief the visit to the doctor uncle is enough to calm you down.  Your impressions for the good and bad are defined by pain. Why do most people prefer medicines to surgery, because it is less painful (at least in perception). There are a lot of instances to prove my point but I guess the issue is clear now.

How many of you have been through the sudden death of your near and dear ones? How many of you have had break-ups? How many of you have been in one sided affairs? Well I guess there are many out there nodding within and feeling the pinch as they recall these moments (sorry to mention these instances fellows), but the aftershocks simply shape your life. Not to mention the masochist and sadist behavior that is propelled by few smarter ones. Ultimately, it is the pain that rules and defines the moment.

Some try to run away from/forget pain by smoking, drinking, drugs and what not. Some just give up and some fight (respect for the fighters). The reaction depends on the state of mind you are in; the worst part is pain affects your mindset so you already are not thinking straight (ironic isn’t it?).

Personally, I have been through painful moments and I bet life is not fair. Yes, it is unfair. Not all of us suffer with the same disease; and this is what makes you different. This is what makes you ‘special’. I have met a lot of people who have been through shit literally. These people have a remarkable character, they have the guts to do things that majority can’t. Needless to say, they learnt it the hard way and then there were those who just failed to recover. The risk never ends (risk is again a four lettered rascal) in life (now this is crazy, life too!).

But then, pain is necessary too. You don’t cherish your happiness until you realize what sadness is. The lessons that pain teaches you are needless to say painful but something that you will never forget in life. They get etched hard and deep in your soul. I won’t rant on pain anymore; just leave you with this fact to ponder. Imagine that before a child is born, the mother undergoes enormous pain. But, when the newborn is in the hands of the mother and she looks at the baby, does she regret the pain? Pain creates this world!!

At the end of it all, there is something good to cherish and meaningful behind pain and “it’s all in the brain” philosophy. Ok that’s it, may God keep away the pain to a minimal in your life coz as I said it before, life is unfair and you may be lucky enough to learn lessons without pain. Best of Luck!!

Take care and hope the post was a painful read… J

Maybe...

 Thoughts are running wild in my head these days and this one seemed worth sharing...

How many times have this word struck your mind? Every day it comes out in one or the other way. (even rana used it to talk about Bengaluru's weather) In my opinion, is it is a dangerous word because it is not         a) definitive, b) open to interpretations and c) refers to uncertainty.

• Maybe I’ll get selected for that job
• Maybe we can be great friends someday
• Maybe I’m wrong, Maybe I’m right
• Maybe he still loves/hates me
• Maybe Osama is in Pakistan
• Maybe someday things will change...

Maybe is a mix of hopes and fears, our assumptions construct it and many precious moments of this life get lost in searching for answers to it. On that note, Hopes and fears by Keane is a great listen, fyi Keane is one of those rare guitar less bands.

Maybe is the middle path suggested by Lord Buddha, it is neutrality and for me it is nothing but another means to show your diplomacy. See, even I’m struggling to classify it as good or bad.

My take away from this thought is simple, try to give reasons and definite answers to your near and dear ones, Maybe spoils their expectations and gives them a false hope in situations when there is no hope in reality. A Yes or No works wonders at times.

A life without Maybe represents clarity of thoughts and nothing like it.

Ending this chotu sa blog now, Maybe I am able to communicate my thought clearly to you.  J Take care...

ps- love u kd, tere liye gaali khaana aur khilaana.. sab manzoor yaar...

Stuck between past, present and future

The pursuit of impossible dream ^TM has lasted for a month in my head and if I still don’t give it the due credit. Then balls to me  (inside joke for god wing: mere tau ka fe paar ho gaya :P)

A few words to explain the concept, all of us live a life chasing things which are never meant to be, it can be

• -          Elusive girlfriend  {aww.. dream girl :( }
• -          Big money and a job with no tension
• -          Peace of mind
• -          Delicious food in mess
• -          Latest gadget in my pocket
• -          Or a husband’s day without argument (N/A)

Things can be simpler ones, or very tough to comprehend but they are there for everyone in varying proportions.

The biggest crime that you can commit is to slog your present for that future which will never materialize. Shahrukh said it in KHNH, Nityananda(:P) said it in a satsang(not the one that came on India TV!) and I’m writing it here. See one of them is a legend in real life (me of course)..!!

Getting back to the present, live it yaar.. put that smile on your friend and save some time for him, for yourself. Live the present before its past and thou shalt have a happy future…

I would not disagree that my life is also a part of The pursuit of impossible dream ^TM, but since I realized this thingy; life has been less of a puzzle. The issue is to find your means to express the feeling, it can be the lost pages, or shouting at people in open houses or just sending anonymous mails to junta.

And for those who are scared of dreaming…  Dream on coz not all but some dreams will obviously come true… and when they do; it’ll be worth it.

I would end this chotu sa blog with this line - take lite… for further details and queries, refer to the red herring prospectus(I meant Madhya ungli tu)…

On a serious note, do try to think on what I’ve said coz it meant a lot to me, hope it helps u too… God bless n take care :)

(Word count 376) – after shocks of Markguru :P


fyi - song of the month goes to dreams and illusions by poets of the fall.
and Munni badbaam hui is awarded the song of the year award... phad phad phad....