The curious life of negativity and hope!

Ever since you played the see saw in your childhood, the ups and downs just become a part of the epic life that we live. A simple game teaches you that there will be troubles in life as well as good times and you will be able to enjoy life only if you can maintain your balance.

This thought has crept in my mind these days as I see a lot of my friends going through the inevitable phase of consolidation. Many of them are concerned about what will happen and how will the future turn up. And as useless I am, it is my joblessness to advice on what to do now. Here goes…

Hey you! Yes you reading this post, wake up dude!

You just can’t spoil your present in worry of the future that you can’t control. It is very easy to think negatively but you have to believe that one day things will be on your side as well. If you lose heart today, how will you cash in on the few opportunities that will come your way?

You know that you deserve good things in life so enjoy whatever is there in the present. Your friends that are with you today will be busy building careers in a few months and this is probably the last time you will get a chance to have fun with them. Spend time with them, do the things you yearned to do, smile yaar… a few dimples won’t hurt your cheeks!

Believe in your dreams, coz that’s your identity. This is the time when you will be able to identify your true friends, use it to learn the lesson that life is trying to teach you.

When you die, you won’t be remembered for what company you worked for or for your academic excellence, you would be remembered by your friends for the good/bad times you shared and someone might add this compliment “he was a good person”.

I’m not saying that you just forget everything else to become a saint; I’m just requesting you to live your life normally under uncertainty. Try and find that balance of life and you will learn an important lesson that this b school is offering.

Hope you understand what I mean. “Duniyadaari ki bheed me insaaniyat mat bhulo yaar…”

Take care…

How to save a life…

The post title is a song by The Fray and is a must listen...
To continue with my ordeal, this post is an emergency reaction to formative minds. Yes, my Tinku finally wrote (check out his blog here) a few lines on his most coveted topic Break Up. A condition which can be best experienced than explained. (If you are going through such a phase, you might as well appreciate this bullshit)
He spoke about sleepless nights and time healing the wounds and I wish to add my two cents about things that actually ruin a person. It is always interesting to read about someone’s turmoil but it takes lot of heart to feel what you go through in a break up. As the human tendency goes,the general advice flows in from all directions:
- You should move on
- You are stronger than that Yaar
- He/she will understand you someday
- Tension mat lo…
- blah blah blah…
In my opinion, the easiest thing to do is to give an opinion, be judgmental on others life and pass what one of my legendary friend calls as ‘sweeping statements’. I feel that if you really care, then what you need to do is listen. Hear him out and be there as a friend. It is not a big ask and allow him/her to find his own way. Nobody wants his life to be ever controlled by a third person and if you are able to understand this opinion, then this post needn’t be stretched.
I am no expert on relationships, but I do realize that it is tough to mend a broken heart. Always try not to hurt any person’s emotions because someday it will come back to you and when it does, it is the worst position to be in.
When someone loves a person, he imagines his whole world with that individual and with a break up, that world becomes another PURSUIT OF THE IMPOSSIBLE DREAM. Life has strange ways to teach us lessons doesn’t it!
your comforting words can never satisfy a person't desire to be with his loved one, always appreciate this fact and you'll be able to understand why certain people behave abnormally in a break up.
I prefer to rest my voice here… in the meanwhile, always try to follow your heart. Life has lesser regrets that ways.
Take care… :)

p.s. - smile from your heart and you will have your life with you.

Words from a Tinku Jiya

You have lost a lot of weight
You look weak
Is everything fine with you?
These lines have become a routine statement for me. All that I offer in reply is a smile. But, after having not cared to look in the mirror at myself properly for a long time, it never occurred to me that I was getting weaker by the day. Well that’s a different story now as I’m loaded with almonds, cashews and what not to regain the lost weight (Chummi reading this…? :P). For confused readers kindly visit http://thelostpages.in – a website of no real use but an example of how free web space can be misused.
I have been irritated with my health issue related questions for a while and its time they get a reply.
I want you to think (girls are excused on this request due to lack of certain necessary components like brain etc.) on what defines poor health and weakness???
How to look beyond the orthodox norms to understand the real meaning of strength and weakness is the real deal in my opinion. Consider this example, however repetitive but it is a good one, Mahatma Gandhi won us the Independence and he wasn’t a man weighing 500 pounds and a world heavyweight championship to scare ‘some people’ (dedicated to rukmee) out of India.
The point is a man is strong or weak only by his mentality. If a person feels he can take on the world, he will do it regardless of his condition. So what is the point of tagging a person as weak or strong? Just let them be…
Before you begin to like the above statement, let me bring out my classification of people.
They are as follows –
- Good people
- Indecisive people
That’s it! These two cover the whole universe for me because I believe that no person is bad, they just don’t know what is right and wrong so they end up doing the mistakes and get categorized as bad in the eyes of others. I hope you get my point coz I’m not explaining it again!
Everyone has goodness inside in varying proportions mixed up with indecisiveness that creates a unique individual who will laugh with friends, feel low when things go wrong and in a nutshell, add colors to this life we live.
But, what really hurts me is that sometimes our indecisiveness can destroy someone else’s life and many of us stay ignorant of this fact until life teaches us a lesson which is too late a realization to sort things. So, my request to all those who unfortunately are reading this blahblah( I can’t classify my own bullshit!) is that they stay sure of whatever they try to achieve in this thing known as life, because your actions can have far reaching consequences.
When you are sure of doing things, whatever you do becomes your strength and you never feel doubtful about achieving it. So, again the concept of strength or weakness holds no relevance. Just stand up to your actions and smile, this world would certainly seem a merrier place to live in after that. A legend once on an early morning had shared this thought with me – “smile from your heart and you will have your life with you”. He is unfortunately not able to follow his own advice but I realized what he wanted to tell me and I’m trying… hope you also try it. I sincerely wish to smile from my heart one day! Amen!
Keep on searching for what keeps you happy and
Take care.

warning: the title can be confusing but Jiya to Tinku hi hota hai na!(NTS)